At this stage of our lives, many of us have been married for decades and honestly, at times sex can get scripted and become a yawn. Being creative and even mischievous can spice up a boring sex life. The key to not letting your sex life get boring is to continue to explore, keep open minds, maintain a willingness to try new things, and work to communicate honestly, and effectively without the judgment.
Sex gets boring when both partners are not invested in learning and evolving. Working on keeping your sex life interesting and exciting sounds like a lot of work but you will both reap the rewards. Here are a few suggestions that will help you rekindle the sexual spark in your relationship that existed once upon a time:
Get frisky. Try sticking a sexy love note where your mate can find it like in one of their pockets, on the steering wheel of their car, under a pillow, in a lunch bag, or even on their computer keys. Mention what you’d like to do to and with them.
Wave your freak flag. Have you had sex in every room of your house? If not, then why not! Why not have sex on the kitchen floor? Want to feel naughty? Try having sex out in the woods. When was the last time you had sex in a car? Go ahead, watch porn together, you’re way past grown!
Try some sensuality. Carve out some time and create an ambiance of pure sexy; remember those blue light basement days? Well, candlelight is sexy and a scented one is even better. Play some jazz music in the background. Set out some succulent fruit and feed each other–strawberries, grapes, melons, mangoes.
Be new and improved. Expand your sexual repertoire and update your scripts! If you only make love on a certain day of the week, change the day and time. Try new sexual positions. Experiment with a maybe (something you’ve always wanted to try). Introduce sex toys. Bring out that sexy lingerie that has been in your drawer for eons!
Pillow talk. Choose a day when you and your mate can just lounge together in bed or on a couch to talk and be intimate. You must make the effort to just take a day to reconnect and to just put aside all of the day-to-day madness.
Practice touching. There is nothing more sensual than touch! Ask your partner to touch you in a manner that he or she would like to be touched. This will give you a better sense of how much pressure, from gentle to firm, you should use.
Ban old routines. If you are used to the missionary position, for example, ban it for a certain period. Prohibit the old stand-by routines for a time to ban the boredom and bring on the spice.