Ending a difficult and unsatisfying relationship is never an easy task. According to relationship experts, uncoupling yourself from a union that kept you from enjoying all that life has to offer is well worth the short-term difficulty afterward. Relationships that cause you to feel stress all the time are worse for your emotional state than not being in one at all.
Even seasoned folks who are in unhealthy relationships that span decades will still mourn the loss of a partner who was selfish, uncaring, inconsiderate, and abusive. A question often asked when it comes to relationship breakups is, “how long should I feel like this?”
Regardless of the reasons why you’re thinking of ending a relationship, making the decision to actually do it is difficult. Here are 16 questions to ask yourself if you’re having trouble deciding on whether to call it quits:
Was my mate abusive or intimidating?
Was I degraded, belittled, and made to feel unimportant? Was I stripped of my confidence?
Was my partner possessive? Did they watch my every move and count every dollar spent?
Was I allowed to speak my mind?
Was I always blamed for wrongs? Did my partner deflect responsibility?
Was the relationship too intense and all-consuming?
Did the relationship allow me to grow?
Does my partner make me happy?
Am I interested in someone else?
Do we share the same goals and plans?
Will I regret my decision five years from now?
Can I handle being single again?
Did I try to make the relationship work?
Am I emotionally ready to walk away from this partnership for good and not look back?
Did I feel isolated?
Do I want my partner holding my hand when I’m on my death bed?
If you’ve answered yes to most of these questions, you may be at the point of no return in your relationship. Feeling indifferent or becoming emotionally detached is a vital sign that your relationship is over.
You may love your partner. You may be the most loving and caring one in your relationship, but if the other person doesn’t play the game of love, then your union is deemed to be a failing one in the end.
After it is all said and done, the only person who can determine what relationship moves should be made is you. Remember that if your relationship fails, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Some unhealthy partnerships are not meant to succeed. Sometimes people keep trying to make sense of something that doesn’t make sense or can’t be solved. If you really take the time to think about your situation, you’ll make the right decision for you.